Limit Your Accesibility To Increase Your Value

I used to be that person that would pick up every phone call, respond to every text, show up to every opportunity, but all of that has changed. When you are too accessible, you not only burnout quickly but you water down your value. I used to pride myself on being a workaholic and to some degree I still am but I realized that's not the best route. Setting a steady controlled pace is key. 

When you over exert yourself for others you often times get taken advantage of. Your kindness and helping nature gets ignorantly mistaken for weakness. Too many times in my life I received the short end of the stick in deals because my work ethic didn't change regardless of what I received. I could be making $1000 or $50 for the same job and it wouldn't matter because my motor was always on go. It wasn't until the past couple of years where I stopped and really focused on my specific value. If you don't slow down or stop to see what's going on you could end up running around broke in circles like a chicken with its head cut off.

I kept finding myself stuck in the same situations where I'm putting in a hell of a lot of work for the benefit of others but the money wasn't adding up.  

I bring a lot of positives to any table I sit at. I don't like to eat off the plate unless I brought some food to it. In other words, I don't want something if I didn't put in the work for it. However when my effort starts to feel like an extended internship is when I pull all the way back. Whenever I work with someone new or help someone new, I like to really grind it out without money being the focus. I like to know exactly what the work load entails, not based off what someone says but how I feel doing the actual job. After knowing the labor that comes with a certain job/task I then try to break down my specific role in that particular job. 

I see how much money is being generated from the work in total. If I'm assisting a job that is bringing in $1000 and my take home is $50 that means that I am getting 5% of that total. If it is one of my businesses or a business that I am partnered in I have to take into account the overhead of the job. After the overhead is covered then I break down the profit to see what my value is.

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I used to be the driver in a lot of situations in my life. If one of my friends didn't have a car I was the one driving. At first it was never a big deal because not everyone has a car so I would look out. I look out because if I didn't have a car, I would want someone to look out for me. However when the rides started happening too often and without a courtesy payment for gas is when I pulled all the way back. Being too quick to offer your time and services will always backfire on you. 

When I started keeping my focus on my own endeavors I found myself more at peace. Life started to open up and I was able to relax more. Now I rarely answer my phone or respond to texts unless I know for certain it's worth my time. I have isolated myself to the point where I'm in my own bubble (with exceptions to my inner circle). By doing this it forced others to pay attention. It forced people to reach out more. It led to me making more money because I was needed more than the other way around. Isolating myself allowed me to filter my surroundings better. 

When you limit your accessibility your value goes up. In order to get me to move you have to show me the numbers. No more days of me running around without any guarantees...

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